Think of someone you would consider "mature". What makes them mature in your mind?
Are they financially secure?
Do they make great decisions?
Do they seem to have their life together?
All of these qualities may be true, but that doesn't make someone mature per se. Let's look at the root of "mature" to further break this down.
The Latin root is "maturare" or "to ripen". Indicative in the root word is this notion of "blooming" or in the case of human persons, "blossoming into a true version of oneself". In other words, the only way to realize the fullness of one's personal potential is to do so incrementally. This incremental change is the process of acquiring the virtues.
A little refresher:
Virtues are those habits ( “operativus” or operation) of the soul (i.e. intellect and will) that dispose you to do good things. And by "good" we mean those acts that are in line with two things:
Through the virtues, we become mature in its truest sense. This is what it means to become "mature."
According to Alexandre Havard in his book, Virtuous Leadership, there are three aspects to maturity:
Let's examine each.
Maturity of judgment comes when we,
Emotional maturity comes when we,
Behavioral maturity is realized when,
You may be wondering, "So what qualities indicate that someone is mature or...immature?"
As Havard says, there are "unmistakable signs" of both maturity and immaturity.
For the mature person, they tend to be...
Self-confident and consistent, psychologically stable, joyful and optimistic, exude a sort of naturalness in all that they do, operate with a sense of freedom and embrace responsibility, and maintain an interior peace in all things.
The immature person, on the other hand, tends to display...
A lack of self-confidence because he or she lacks self-knowledge, is unable to look at him or herself objectively, exhibits childish pride or false humility, is too prone to compromise and is too ready to make demands, cannot distinguish between what is important and what is not, imprudent, superficial and emotional in his or her responses, and avoids commitments and fears responsibilities.
The nature of the role of every leader demands true maturity. Maturity that has virtue as the foundation is the only way to overcome personal weaknesses and live up to our true potential.
If you are a leader of any kind and don't make the acquisition of virtue the foundation of all personal development and growth...you're failing before you get started. Doing so is like the "foolish man that built his house on sand" that Our Lord speaks of in the Gospels (Matthew 7:26 to be exact).
My suggestion? Listen to Jesus and build your leadership on a strong foundation (i.e. the virtues).
True maturity, and the ability to lead others well, are on the other side.
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